Monday, February 10, 2014

AM I PRETTY OR AM I UGLY?

Oh my! I didn't realize how long it has been since I last posted.  I finally graduated in April 2013.  I started my new teaching job in August 2013.  I am now teaching special education, K-2, which I love.  One thing I never knew about teaching, though, was how tiring it can be.  I usually get to school between 6:30 - 6:45 and I leave anywhere between 3:30 - 3:45, plus all the planning I do at home.

I also have a new granddaughter, Audrey Rose, who is now four-months-old.  I love being a "nana", but it does take up a lot of my free time, as they are currently living with me, but I love having them.
 

Now for the question at hand..."am I pretty or am I ugly?"  If you search YouTube, there are hundreds of very young girls, some as young as eight-years-old, asking YouTubers this question.  And my question is, "why are girls so young worried about how they look?"
 


 
 
(This video was posted two years ago, but there were videos that had been posted just three hours before I started searching.)  I watched several of these videos, and some of these girls look really sad, because they believe that they are ugly...and they are so young.

Another thing I must ask is, "where are the parents?" and "do they know their young daughters are posting videos on YouTube?"

I think it is sad that so much emphasis has been placed on "looks", and Hollywood has sexualized girls.  Young girls are bombarded with these images every day, it is no wonder they question how they look. 

I think every mother, who has a daughter, needs to show her the following video.

 



What do you think about young girls going on YouTube to ask the question, "am I pretty or am I ugly"?


 



72 comments:

Lauren said...

Yikes, it's scary that young girls do that! All I can think of is all the sex offenders out there who could take advantage of that situation. I agree with you... where are the parents?

Laura Hinckley said...

You make such great points. It's nice to have you back and you are right teaching can be exhausting. My middle daughter is in her first year and coming home exhausted. :) Sending love from #sitsblogging

Roz K. Walker said...

Oh, this is so sad! The little girl in the video just about broke my heart! We are bombarded with images of what the media calls pretty - from the grocery check-out lanes to billboards - it's just about unavoidable. That's why, I believe, it's so important to talk to your daughter's early and help them see their value through God's eyes.

The Leila BK Blog: Sensitive and Extraordinary Kids said...

Okay, I had no idea there were videos like that out there. I watched the one you posted and then clicked on the suggested video and saw a 14 year old girl tell the story of how she became pregnant. I feel like I can't breathe anymore.

What is going on with the world? Am I pretty or am I ugly? Is that really something girls should concern themselves with to the extent of posting silly, shallow vidoes of themselves for the world to see? And yeah? Where are those parents of hers? This is ridiculous. The way they think is ridiculous. The absence of limits at home is ridiculous. This shallowness is ridiculous. And also, uncontrolled bullying at school is ridiculous. Kids can be mean mean mean. I was there. I was made to feel horrible. So I know how it can scar a child. But for something like this to go uncontrolled leads to some very sad shallow children.

Boy am I sad now.

Crazed in the Kitchen said...

This is both sad and scary to me--that girls of any age, but especially so young, would worry so much about this. As a mom of a baby girl, I worry about how I will stay on top of the technology as it evolves over time. Yikes!

Dominique Goh said...

I think the girls who do that are seriously lacking self confidence. They too need good role models

Angelina said...

That is just so so sad--not only that they are preoccupied by this question and base their self worth on it, but also that they feel they have to validate themselves with the opinions of total strangers! It's also scary to think they are so desperate for this validation that they will be happy to get it from anywhere and anyone, including pedophiles. Parental awareness and intervention is so so important! Thank you for sharing. I think I will have to talk to my girls when they get back from school!

Lara said...

Personally, I believe that society needs to stop shoving images of photoshopped women (and for that matter men too) down our throats. If those models can't look like that in real life how in the world are regular people suppose to compete with those standards. Our society needs to focus on healthier models. Ya know, ones where you can't see ribs and collar bones sticking through.

I'm 24 years old, but my mom kept logs of things that I did when I was little. I found a log of when I was 8 years old. I was running around the house to "burn calories" because I didn't want to get fat. There's just so much pressure on everyone (especially young girls) to look a certain way, act a certain way, and do certain things.

Enough of my ranting though! I loved your post. It brings up a very great point that is happening throughout the world. Thank you for sharing!
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Unknown said...

This seems like it will open up situations for bullying. I can see a bunch of people leaving negative comments on videos.

Krist D said...

That little girl makes me sad. I wish her parents could see this! I can't stand all the rampant photo-shopping that is so ridiculously obvious to me because I could photoshop the heck out of a pic if I wanted to. Nobody has any "texture" in these ads. Every inch of skin is blurred! I love anything that shows how it's done to show kids what a joke it is and how these people really look! #SITSBlogging.

Kristen@CountryFitFamily said...

It is so sad that kids can turn to the Internet to get evaluated. It is huge downside of having access to millions of people at the click of a button that do not know you but can leave their opinion on anything about you.

LaKita said...

Wow! I think that it is so sad that she has people saying that she is ugly...kids can be mean, but so can people on social media. I would delete this video if it was my child. #SITSBlogging

Keri @ Growing in His Glory said...

As the mom of 3 girls 5 & under, I am very concerned about the issue of beauty and their perception of it. We tell our children daily they're beautiful--inside and out, emphasizing that the beauty of their hearts is much more important than outward appearance. Still, the media will prevail, so we must diligent in instilling strong self-esteem in our daughters. Great post. #SITSBlogging

Unknown said...

This is so scary! It makes me so sad that this happens.

Unknown said...

This is so sad! I believe a lot of it stems from the media, but I also think we as women need to be less consumed with our physical appearance. It's nice to take care of yourself and feel beautiful, but it can be taken to an extreme. I would guess a lot of these girls are getting the wrong message from adults in their lives.

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Krissa said...

That is very sad...makes me scared for my daughter as she's getting closer to her pre-teen years each day! Stopping by from SITS Girls! ~Krissa (http://www.morethanmundane.com)

Lena @ WhatMommyDoes said...

Wow, I didn't even realize this was going on, and it's horrifying! I can't believe these girls are putting their videos out for the world to see, and I'm saddened that they are even concerned about this. I think there is so much pressure to be "pretty" these days because every look you sport or event you attend is broadcasted on social media or even via text. When I was 12, I only had to worry about my 2 friends who were with me seeing me, so I didn't have to worry about looking good. #SITSBlogging

Unknown said...

It is sad isn't it? I try to not talk about my appearance in front of my daughter -- even though I'm still trying to lose the baby weight. I don't ever want her to feel that way.

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Kim Seghers said...

Hi! it's sad and scary! Where are the parents ? It's sad that young girls are worried about their looks and turning to strangers to validate them. Coming over from #Sitsblogging

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I am THAT lady said...

This is so scary! So sad! #SITSBlogging

Kristin said...

Congrats on being a grandma - that little family is adorable! Stopping by to spread the comment love from SITS!

Unknown said...

Wow, what a telling video. Thank you for sharing! Visiting from #SITSBlogging

Lauren said...

This breaks my heart. It's so scary what society has become. I hope I can raise my daughter to be confident and not worry about what anyone else things.

Unknown said...

Wow --- that is crazy. What the...!! :/

Laurie said...

Congrats on being a nana! I think it is incredibly sad that these girls are so insecure that they feel the need to go ask total strangers, via Youtube, if they are pretty or not, and especially that they think they have to present some sex goddess image. #sitsblogging

Unknown said...

I had not heard of this crazy trend! What in the world? Yes, I too wonder where the parents are and why this young girls are looking to absolute strangers for approbation? Crazy times we live in!

Unknown said...

AS a mother of an 8 yr old this worries me. Good post. #SITSBlogging

Unknown said...

I think this type of post, makes more aware of what is really going on with our youth. Thank you for posting. #sitsblogging

Unknown said...

I like your blog helping parents navigate teens and tweens. It is scary that kids are posting on YouTube in this way. Everyone has celebrity complex and is making their lives public without understanding the risks involved. It scares me the tweens and teens look up to the Kardashians. It's whats inside that counts.

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laura said...

This is so sad, and so scary to me. I'm not even sure I know how to articulate the proper words. It's so important that we teach our children, both girls and boys, the real meaning of beauty.

Leilani Smith said...

What's crazy is I've noticed a lot of my little nieces posing like models with hands on hips and tilted to the side. WTH? We just smiled through our mud pies when I was that age. I think parents come into play on this in a way and definitely social "me"dia. #Sitsblogging

krystal said...

What a powerful post. I can't believe those girls are sharing those videos on youtube. I had no idea. :( #SITSBlogging

Cobberson & Co. said...

Oh my goodness, I have never heard of this and it made me so sad. These girls feel more comfortable talking to strangers than to their families. Things really need to change.

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Lauren @ infinite.nu said...

Congratulations on your graduation last year! I read your about page and I think it's wonderful that you've created a blog to help other mothers face the troubles you've overcome. Sometimes it's easier to just put those things in the past and move forward, but it's a real strength to be able to hold on to those things and help others.

I think this youtube problem is a pretty scary concept... and appreciate even more than you shared your thoughts on it. I'm not a mother but I think about how I want to be around children I do have to best impact their lives, and this is an important topic to consider.

Stopping by from #SITSBlogging
Lauren

What I Want My Kids To Know said...

I worry so much about this with a daughter that is only in preschool I see people constantly commenting on her looks, how pretty she is...etc. It always makes me a little uncomfortable because people do not do that to older children (not that they should for younger children) but I feel it adds to the doubt and questioning the young girls go through in their teen and tween years. #sitsblogging

Unknown said...

I just had an amazing talk with my 17 year old daughter. This morning she went to the Provo Temple to do some thinking. As she was sitting on a bench out in the cold, a 21 year old girl came and started visiting with her. The girl just opened up and shared with my daughter how she hated Valentines day and was so envious of her beautiful roommates. My daughter shared with her that beauty is deep and when we look for the real beauty in others, we begin to see it within ourselves. I love my daughters words of wisdom.

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